In the “Heat of the Moment”, Give Yourself a Time-out.

No matter what age child you're dealing with, there are going to be times you get so angry you could just scream! You may yell at the child to try and get your point across. Or maybe the child involved starts screaming or yelling.

Screaming and yelling doesn’t accomplish anything because as soon as one of you starts raising their voice, the other person involved quits listening.

If your anger is building up and you feel yourself getting ready to yell, take a deep breath and walk away for a moment. That doesn’t mean to just forget about the issue that made you angry, because it should be addressed. But address it at a time when everyone is calm and able to talk it.

When you are able to communicate calmly with your child, use a normal tone voice to express your feelings. Let them know that what they did was wrong, explain the boundaries they crossed and inform them of any consequences for their behavior. And then, by all means, follow through with the consequences. Don't give in to whining or begging and don't shorten the original time-frame you assigned to the consequence. Your child has to know you are just as serious when you're calmly talking to them as you were when you yelled at them.

Something else that happens when you scream and yell at your child, they learn to scream and yell when they are angry. It will not only come back at you during confrontation between you and your child, but that will be the technique they know when they become angry at their friends at school. You need to teach your child a better technique for expressing their anger.