Potty Training Stumbling Blocks
You need some advice as you start the toilet training journey? Patience. That is the one most important thing to have while training. Besides impatience, you will most likely experience frustration, some anger and a feeling of helplessness.
Some children are afraid to sit on the toilet because they are afraid they will fall in or afraid they will get flushed down.
Sometimes a child seems like they’re doing really well and headed down the right path. Then all of a sudden, they stop using the toilet. This is very common and there is no need to panic. Simply encourage the trainer to get back to going potty on the toilet as soon as possible, remembering that patience is so important.
You want your child trained and he does not want you telling him what to do: may become a power struggle. This is a rare time where the child will win the struggle. They have more control in this situation than you do. Again, step back and take a deep breath. Start again with a refreshed attitude.
Home vs. Daycare:
Sometime a child will start using the toilet at home, but not at daycare or vice-versa. It doesn’t matter, either place is good. They might choose at home because there’s more privacy. Or they might choose daycare because they just do it when all the other children are doing it and it’s no big deal. Praise them no matter where they started the process and it will naturally progress to both places.
Boys are older:
Boys tend to wait a little longer to decide they are ready to train. No reason why except that boys develop a little bit later than girls.
Some children crave attention whether it’s positive or negative. Having bathroom accidents is getting them attention, all be it negative. Be sure to over praise accomplishments and make accidents “no big deal.”
Children seem to have a lot of accidents while playing outside. It’s simply a matter of having so much fun they don’t want to stop to use the restroom. The solution is to have them go before you go outside and, if it’s an extended amount of time, you need to be the one to say it’s time to go instead of waiting for them to decide.
It’s taking too long!
Sorry, not much help I can give you here. It’s up to your child on how long it’s going to take and you’re just along for the ride!
Do not automatically rule out that your child may have a medical condition that is causing accidents. If you’ve tried everything you possibly can with no luck, consult a physician. If it is a medical condition, you can get help with it. If it ends up not being medical, you’ll know better how to approach continued training.
No Bowel Movement:
It is common for children to be able to urinate on the toilet without being able to have a bowel movement on the toilet. It’s natural progression. Be patient. If they go in their pants, just encourage them to use the toilet the next time.
Your child might have experienced a painful bowel movement and they’re trying to not let it happen again. Using their diet, soften their stool to make it a little easier.
If you or your child reaches a time when the frustration gets to an unmanageable level, it’s time to take a break. Try not to make it too long because you need to remember that consistency is important. But if there is too much negative energy in the bathroom, you need to get rid of it.
Just hang in there... Take a deep breath. Give your child a pep talk. Buy some new, fun underwear. Then start again with a refreshed attitude.
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